We are bound to live. Did we have a choice? No, birth wasn’t our choice. Once we are born, we are related. Being blood related too wasn’t our choice. Nobody was asked whom do you want to be born or whom do you want to have as your brother or sister. That’s the first chapter in every man’s history. The rest is for each one to create, with all the open choices. The beginning isn’t a choice, but the end is.
If life is a book, every line in it comes out of the every action we initiate. Every Para from the events that succeeds to grab a space in the memory. Every page from the changes that the stored memory brings in us. Every chapter from the transitions we make from the changes brought in us, from a kid to a child, child to a student, student to a professional and then to a marriage, a father likewise.
If life is a book, characters in it are the ones that make it enjoyable. We relate to people as we move. We separate from people when we say, ‘let’s move on’. Relations that we make are the very important parts of our life. What is the value of the wealth accumulated or the success achieved if we don’t have the right people to share it with? And as it is important to build relationships, it is equally important how we do or what we do when we say, ‘let’s move on’. And that’s what I would like to write here.
We always relate to people when we like them. We spend time, moments, minutes, months or years with them. The next moment, the next minute, the next month or the next year the relation may not seem necessary for reasons well known to oneself. That’s the hard truth of life. When we do that, equal (or may be even more) value and care we give when we are trying to build a relationship should be shown when we are coming out of a relationship! After all relationships are not tissue papers to be folded and thrown when it has served its purpose for you.
There are good reasons. When you are coming out of a relationship, there is pain. Either to one or to both which is not so when you are trying to build a relationship. As humans/not barbarians it is fundamental that we don’t hurt fellow beings by purpose. So, we must always put extra efforts to make the exit smooth for both.
There are more reasons. The time spent with a person or in a relationship is nothing but a piece of one’s life. If we stop respecting the person once we are out of the relationship and make a rough exit, if we start speaking badly about them, if we comment to hurt them, then for both, it is nothing more than a piece of life regretted however sweet might have been the moments when they were spent together.
Any relationship for the matter- a friend, a love, a brother, an uncle, a senior, or a boss- whatever the magnitude of the time spent – may it be moments, minutes, months or years- it is very important to save and carry on with the sanctity of the relationship. It should fill our hearts when we remember the time spent with the person. It should save us a face to send a heartfelt wish or to say a graceful ‘hi’ the next time we meet them.
To relate or to separate are the laws of life. Life is a piece of cake for the one who knows how to relate, and life is a collection of junk for the one who doesn’t know how to separate. To relate should be the point of life and when it is imminent to separate, we should make sure that it is done in a way not to regret the time spent with the person. What is life after all if we regret the pieces which when unite make what is called ‘the life’?